Introduction

In this special message, Paul and Patty Durbin reflect on a powerful three-week sabbatical they spent at Alongside—a retreat for pastors and missionaries. Together, they share honest, heartfelt takeaways about emotional health, God’s presence in pain, the power of attunement, and the freedom we have in how we respond to our past. Pastor Paul emphasizes that while we don’t always get answers, God always gives us a response—His face turned toward us in love, peace, and comfort. This message reminds us that transformation comes through awareness, connection, and choosing health even in hardship.

⌘ Space to Belong (Icebreaker)

• What’s something you’ve put off doing even though it wasn’t as hard as you thought?
• Growing up, what was your family’s “default” way of dealing with conflict—explosive, quiet, avoidant, or something else?

⌘ Space to Believe (Scripture Focus)

Main Passage: Numbers 6:24–26 (NIV)

“The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.”

Context: This ancient priestly blessing was God's own words given to Aaron to speak over His people. It’s a picture of God’s attunement—that He sees us, favors us, and wants us to live in His peace.

Discussion Questions:

• What stands out to you in this passage? Is there anything new for you to believe or obey?
• What does it mean to you that God “turns His face toward you”?
• How have you experienced God’s comfort during a painful or uncertain season?

⌘ Space to Become (Application)

1. Where do I feel like I’ve been “ghosted” by God—or others?
   • God responds even when we don’t sense he’s given us an answer.
2. Am I avoiding something that God is inviting me to face?
   • Pastor Paul talked about how we tend to overestimate the cost and underestimate our ability to cope. What’s your “camper renovation project” moment?
3. What’s one unhealthy pattern I inherited or developed growing up?
   • Our family systems shape us, but they don’t define our future. Healing starts with honesty.
4. How do I typically deal with anger—and is it working for me?
   • Suppressing, exploding, denying, or withdrawing all have costs. Healthy anger respects oneself and others.
5. What would it look like for me to be a “water purifier” this week?
   • Instead of reacting instantly, pause and process. Ask God to transform pain into something good before sending it back into the world.